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An Excerpt from Chapter Four, "The Double Lollipop, or, The Two Types of Language Women Like" [Examples and Diagrams Omitted] ...Example One uses language in a way that men expect, that men are content hearing, and that women often find flat and uninspiring. Example Two uses language in a way that men find irritating, and that women find intensely exciting. Men and women experience language in radically different ways, and enjoy different styles of language. You may have noticed that there are two unusual kinds of language used in the second description. One is emotional abstraction--the words in CAPITALS, like [OMITTED] and [OMITTED] and [OMITTED]. These words are vague; they refer to emotional states, without telling you anything about what specifically to see, hear, feel, smell, or taste. The other kind, which is underlined, represents the extreme opposite--that is, exact language that presents explicit sensory information--instructions on what to see, hear, tactilely feel, smell, or taste. This kind of information specifies color, texture, tone, flavor, scent. For convenience, we'll refer to emotional abstractions as [OMITTED]. We'll refer to sensory-specific terms as [OMITTED]. Women emphasize the extremes--bubblewords and sensewords--in order to convey the subjective experience with richness and depth. Because they expect words to produce powerful emotions in their listeners and themselves, women often use repetition, in order to squeeze as much emotional juice as possible from the act of describing an experience. For women being "detailed" means supplying subjective perceptions--colors and textures, feelings and reactions. Male speech is information-based. It's meant to give you enough info to draw a mental map of an event. Female speech is experience-based. It's meant to give you enough info to subjectively experience an event. It's easy to quickly make women feel good--just... [Order "Sexual Key" to see and use the
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